Step One — Set the stage

Set aside some time for yourself.  Turn off your phone or other distractions.

Do something to call forth your "best self".  Here are a few ideas:

• Get quiet
• Sit under to your favorite tree
• Pray
• Light a candle
• Meditate
• Do a few "PQ Reps"
• Read a poem you love
• Do a symbolic dance
• Play soothing music 

Step Two - Choose your Theme

Common themes include:

- Wellness - Health - Fitness
- Achievement - Performance - Accomplishments [work or life]
- Healthy and Strong Relationships

Need help choosing a theme?
Fill out the attached "Wheel of Life".  Select the theme that has the most "juice" for you.

Don't judge or overthink it. 
Trust what draws you in this moment as something you want to work on ... no matter what the "score" is on the wheel!

Step Three — Get Specific

With your theme in hand, add some visible elements to your goal. 

What will you actually DO if you meet or approach this goal? 
What actions would a neutral observer see you take?  

for Wellness - Health - Fitness
     Might your customized goal include any of the following behaviors?

• Set overdue doctor appointments?
• Work out 3x a week?
• Eat more veggies?  (how many?)
• Resume a spiritual practice? 
• Spend time in nature every week?

for Achievement - Performance - Accomplishments [work or life]
     Might your customized goal include any of the following behaviors?

• Create your new website?
• Sign up for and attend an improv class?
• Publish 2 articles?
• Ask for a raise?    

for Healthy and Strong Relationships
     Might your customized goal include any of the following behaviors?

• Reach out to friends (old or new) to schedule coffee?
• Create your dating profile and accept 2 invitations? 
• Express more affection and interest with a loved one? 
• Repair damaged work relationships?    
• Calm yourself down when you get triggered by a coworker?

Need help getting specific?
a) Ask 1-3 people you trust what they could imagine you doing to improve or grow in your chosen theme.
    Select ideas that appeal to you (and let go any that aren't a fit).
   Make sure to thank them for their ideas!      

or

b) Choose a self-assessment that appeals to you
    Contact us for options. Examples include:

• Conflict resolution styles     
• Team behavior patterns
• Emotional intelligence
• Relationship toxins
• Executive presence
• Common triggers
• Daily/Weekly energy peaks/valleys​

Step Four — Why does it matter?

Ask yourself why this matters to YOU?

• What makes it important to attend to? Why do you care about it?
• Why now?
• Or, why does it matter for your future?​

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Look at your answers
Now, ask yourself "... and what's so important about THAT?" 

• You can do this 5 times (look up the "5 Whys" to learn more)

Get to the heart of why that goal is so important that it's worth the time and energy required to change your habits and stretch out of your comfort zone.

Record your goal and/or the inspiration somewhere to remind you 

• Place a symbolic picture or drawing on your desk

• Create a vision board
• Tape a post-it-note to your mirror
• Change your screen saver

Step Five — Congratulate yourself on this important step in your change process